April 26, 2023
Sometimes, it seems like some people have it all figured out, while others simply… can’t. It’s like there’s a certain type of person in this world who was given out a recipe book on day one, and all they had to do was open it up and follow instructions. As long as they go step by step, success is there, waiting for them.
You want to be one of those people. It’d be so nice if you could just pop open your recipe book and follow it step by step as well.
But the truth is, no one has ever had a success recipe written down and handed over to them.
That is, until now. Welcome to the recipe for success. Ready to take notes?
The Recipe for Success
2 Cups of Willingness
There are people in this world who will never actually find their recipe. Not because it doesn’t exist. Let me reiterate: Everyone has one. Everyone can reach a level of success. But just like any good recipe, it’s not going to happen if you’re not willing to get in the kitchen and do the work.
There will be moments of reflection. There will be times when you have to switch things up, change what feels comfortable in simply existing so you can find a better way of actually thriving. You may have to try out new things. There may be conversations and decisions that feel uneasy at first.
But as long as you’re willing to push through any twist and turn that heads your way, I can promise you this: The time you spend in your personal self-improvement kitchen is going to pay off in big ways.
1 Cup of Honesty
This is non-negotiable. If there’s one thing you have to have for success, you have to be honest. Sure, to the people around you. But I’m talking beyond the “Don’t tell lies” rule of thumb your parents drilled in your head when you were five. I’m talking about being honest with yourself.
There are pieces in your life that light you up like the fourth of July… and yet you’re pushing them on the back burner? Why? Maybe they don’t rank in importance based on what the rest of the world says? Maybe because they seem silly to love as an adult? Maybe you’re afraid that if you were to pursue them, you’ll actually dig yourself into a hole that’s further and further away from the success you want.
And on the flip side, there are plenty of things that aren’t working, and yet, you still allow them to be a part of your life. Sometimes, a big part. Could be that corporate job that’s draining the life out of you, the schedule at home that’s wearing you out… or *gulp* a relationship you’ve settled into but you’re not exactly all in-in anymore.
Just like you need strawberries to make strawberry cheesecake, you need honesty for success. It’s just not going to happen without it. (And as good as plain cheesecake might be, there’s no such thing as almost-success. It’s either there for you to thrive, or it’s non-existent.)
2 Tbsp of Passion
Living without passion isn’t really living, is it? It’s just… existence. And I don’t know about you, but I don’t want to just exist through my life. That’s one sad way to spend my time on earth.
If you want to reach real happiness and real success, you need to figure out what it is you are passionate about. It could literally be anything from saving the world of hunger to creating the prettiest mugs to sell coffee drinkers. It could be singing jazz at nightclubs or helping entrepreneurs kick start their businesses.
Whatever your passion is, it’s going to be the catalyst to everything else. So now is the time to find what it is now… and also know that it could change in the future. (See below!)
A Sprinkle of Pizazz
Here’s where the real flavoring comes into play. Remember how I said some people will never find their own recipe because they don’t have the willingness to actually put in the work?
Well, there’s actually another reason, too.
It’s because they’re not willing to add their pizazz, when it’s needed.
What do I mean by that?
Think about making mashed potatoes. You’ve got the base recipe down: potatoes, salt, pepper, and milk. You could stop there. But why when you could add in some cheddar. Or maybe one day you’d like some garlic and parm. Or another day you’re feeling more like cream instead of milk. Or bacon sounds good. Or chives. Or… or… or.
Or maybe you scrap the potatoes altogether and decide to toss a Cesar salad.
The thing is: You have to be willing to change things up when it calls for it. Some days, things are going to be working for you just fine. Others, you’ll realize that the same exact thing needs a shift. Or to be adjusted. Or thrown out altogether.
Humans aren’t stagnant creatures, and we have to give ourselves the opportunity to be flexible so we can allow ourselves to actually find our current recipe for success… even if that recipe needs to change later.
My Mission is to Ensure You Find Your Recipe for Success
I honestly believe every single person has their own unique recipe to finding success in their lives. I have one. You have one. Your neighbor’s best friend’s sister’s cousin who resembles Steve Harvey has one.
And there is no recipe card with it on there. Nor is there a book with a pre-written recipe just for you.
But if you haven’t found yours yet, let me just say this:
Keep working at it. Keep being honest with yourself. Keep being willing to figure it out, one step at a time. And if you need help figuring out what the next step is… that’s why I’m here (contact me). At My Recipe My Therapy, my mission is to help you figure out what ingredients you need to achieve the success you desire, when you aren’t sure what they are yet.
I am a transformational and self-discipline coach for professional women. Helping you build habits and mindsets to achieve your goals.
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